Truthfulness and Butt-Kissers

Wounds from a friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.   Proverbs 27:6 (NLT)

I read this the other day on a friends facebook post.  What a great verse.  Thanks Mrs. Beverly. 

The wounds of a friend are better than the kisses of an enemy.  Let’s start with the second part, raise your hand

The kisses of an enemy.  Who likes to have their butt kissed raise your hand!  I do.  I like having my ego stroked, my actions praised and my looks complimented.  ( the last one is more a hope than something that actually happens all that often.)  Seriously though, we enjoy it.  It makes us feel good to be appreciated.  We enjoy hearing about how awesome we are.  I have a picture on facebook of Capt. Kirk (Star Trek) and he has a big old cheesy smile on his face.  The caption under the picture says, “I’m sorry, I can’t hear you over the sound of how awesome I am.”  You can see it HERE

But Proverbs is trying to warn us about this.  The problem with many “kisses of the posterior” from enemies is they aren’t true.  They aren’t reality.  They are mainly lies.  We believe them because we want to believe them.  Even though sometimes our ego won’t allow us to see them as false, most of us have grown past this.  Most of us see ourselves warts and all. 

It is easy to get the last part of this verse.  The hard part is accepting the first part.  To realize that the wounds from a friend are actually good for us.

The wounds of a friend.  Hopefully you have friends.  I do.  I have a lot, actually according to facebook, I have 205 friends, but I only have one or two that really know the real me.  Only one or two that I truly open up to.  Only one or two that I share my heart and soul with.  Most of the rest are superficial at best, fake at worst.  For those that know me you would probably say I am an out-going and funny guy.  But for those that really know me they would say I am also a closed off and guarded man.  I share easily but I share myself rarely.  I believe most of us are this way though.  I think the Roman Gladiator Adult Costume vast majority only feel comfortable with a few close friends.  I think it is hard-wired in our genes to only allow a few people to breach the walls of our heart, to get past our defenses.  Just as the gladiators of old were trained to keep opponents from getting past their defenses so have we trained ourselves to not allow people through ours.  I can count maybe four people that I have ever let past mine. 

Why?  Why are we this way?  Why are we so guarded?  Why have we built these massive walls around us?  Simple- survival.  The greatest pain I have ever known has come from my friends.  The most hurt I have endured has been at their hands.  But at the same time the most truth I have learned and the most healing has come from them as well. 

The true friend knows what to say and when to say it.  The true friend does not turn from their duty to speak the truth in love even when it means pain for their friend.  I have been on both sides.  I have been the one that truth hurt and the one to speak those painful words.  Neither side is very fun I can assure you.  But the necessity of having and being such a friend is undeniable.  The truth is hard to swallow at times, and at least for me, I tend to need someone to force me to drink it. 

2462264991_419a4d7bd9 My daughter Abby is stubborn.  I mean mule-stubborn (she gets it from my Mom- I get it from my Mom as well, but Abby didn’t get it from me)  The other night she refused to take her liquid medicine.  After 30 minutes of trying to reason with her I finally looked at her and said, “Baby-girl, you’re gonna take that medicine even if I have to force it down your throat.  Now, do you want to do this the easy way or the hard way?”  Of coarse she chose the hard way!  I usually do too.  (thanks Mom!)

But once the truth is swallowed and it begins to digest in our soul it becomes sweet and nourishing.  It may be a bitter pill to swallow but it becomes a piece of chocolate cake once we begin to accept it. 

As many as I love, I rebuke and discipline. So be committed and repent. 20 Listen! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and have dinner with him, and he with Me.  Revelation 3:19-20 (CSB)

Jesus IS truth.  Invite Him in.  Have dinner.  Enjoy the company.


It’s all about Him,

Shawn

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Still Searching

971769_35234818 Well, it’s the end of the year and it is time for the 1st Annual “Searching For Stuff” Blog.  What is the “Searching For Stuff” blog?  Well, it’s the post where I go through the search engine words that brought people to my blog.  It’s also when I look back and see how many people visited and the amount of comments, along with my own special sense of humor. 

 

NOTE- If you’re looking for spiritual uplifting or some deep Christ-filled entry then today is NOT your day.  I got nothing for you.  Just some stupid facts and mindless fun.  Hope you enjoy it anyway.

I am always fascinated by what people type into their Google, Bing and Yahoo search boxes (although according to what i have read, most of the yahoo in Yahoo has said toodle-loo).  It amazes me that I write a Christian blog and the top ten word searches that have brought random people across the world to my little blog mostly have nothing to do with Jesus.  Here they are in order- 1088940_96230265

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Basically, what this tells me is that I need to write about glass cleaner, diapers and beer (dos equis is a beer).  Three of the top ten refer to dos equis.  Maybe people are spilling their beer while changing a diaper and cleaning it up with Windex.

My busiest day of the year was April 11th.  There were 289 page views.  The most read post that day was The Ultimate Example of Obedience! with 280 looks.  The best month was October with 2,092 people taking a peek.  Total people for the year that visited this blog?  14,566!  Last year- 7,366.  Almost doubled!  At this rate I will be the most popular blog in the world in 47 years!

Actually, that’s pretty cool.  Maybe it will double again next year.  WARNING!  Incoming Shameless Plug.  Please feel free to share the link to my blog on your facebook, myspace, twitter or linkedin pages.

I have made 121 posts and you have made 177 comments.  That makes my goal of 2 posts per week.  Maybe next year the comments will be doubled as well.  I love to read your thoughts and opinions.

Two other bloggers have linked or written about my blog.  Allow me to return the favor- “Emotional Abuse and Your Faith” as well as “footsteps of life”.  “footsteps of life” writer Emily is a good friend of mine, she is also and excellent writer and person.

987790_61075186 Well, I guess that about sums it up.  This has been a great year.  I think I am getting better.  I hope you are enjoying and learning as much as I am.  Feel free to share this blog with your friends, if you have any.  If you don’t, share it with your enemies.  None of those either?  Then just share it with random people at Wal-mart. 

 

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

 

It’s all about Him,

Shawn

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